«Where
will you go? Oh,
Budapest? I loved it, it's
amazing! I remember when I was there...». Exactly in this moment of
the conversation, this person -and it's not important who
it is, because
it's everybody-
starts to explain all their memories from
this city, saying things like: “you
should go to the the baths... the beer is so cheap, you will get
fatter... Budapest is the Paris from East!... if you haven't a good
coat there, brrr!...
Hungarian people are distant, but
boys
are good-looking, specially if they are violinists... you'll
see, the language is
much
too
difficult!”. Well, I put all these
feelings and pictures in my suitcase, as if
they were mine, even if I tried to not be influenced. Now I'm here,
finally. And the beer is cheap, but the weather is not so cold, and
the only violinist that I met wasn't Hungarian.
When I was in the metro, going from the airport to
the center, an old man wanted to help me. I didn't need help, but
that was not important for him because he had already decided that he
will help me, so he read to me all the metro stations, written above
the door. I said thank you very much, but he was not satisfied at
all; he still wanted to help me. So I asked him how to say some
survival words in Hungarian, and he wrote it on
my plane ticket,
“Szia, köszönöm, igen, nem,
bocsánat...”. He wanted me to repeat
them to him, so I
became a show in this metro, trying to pronounce strange words for
me, and people were
laughing, even if they thought that
they had
concealed it very well.
So in my first hour in Hungary, I understood two
things: that this language is really difficult, and that people from
here are not so distant as they can seem at the first moment. This
old man opened his cultural door for me, and it was a
wonderful experience.
After this one, a lot of doors were opened: the
people who hosted me the first week opened their flat and their lives
to me, and quickly I found a room to rent and my flatmate was also
opened to my company; in a few
days I discovered a lot of bars and locals with live music, and also
the main library where you can imagine Sisi entering any time. And
always, doors are opened by Hungarian people, who say to
me “let's go, come in”, and I have to pass before them, because
if I don't pass before we are like stupid people
waiting at the
door, giving way to each other like in a film of Buñuel. I remember
one day, a friend of mine was telling me a story about a boy, and she
said: “at first he seemed nice. He always opened the doors for me
and let me go first,
he seemed a good person”. I would never think that it's a reason to
think someone is a good person, in fact I've never thought about it
before being here. So I guess that giving
way to people, specially if you are male, is important here, really
more than in my country, where we lost this kind of politesse.
And not only this surprised me in Budapest. It's
known that comparing
can be not so good, but everybody
do it constantly. We have some ideas which are so normal for us that
we can't imagine that it's not obvious for another person,
so when it happens, we compare. Let me explain...
I come from a place where there is a not
common language. When foreigners say hello
or goodbye in Catalan
we are happy and grateful. I thought it was going to be the same
here, I imagined that people would be happy when I tried to speak
Hungarian when making
a purchase, not
because it is a small language, but because it is a difficult
language that not many foreigners try to speak it. In a country where
people open the doors for me, the minimum is to thank them
in their language. So I always try; for the
first few days I
always had with me my plane ticket
with this first lesson written on it, and a few days later without
it, until today. But here it is
different from home: when I say something in Hungarian, people do not
care. And if I tell them
that I have a Hungarian course in the university, they even laugh! Or
maybe I can say that, contradicting this distant behavior that they
have as a stereotype,
at least they laugh! However, I wasn't
surprised the first day of my Hungarian course: I was late, running
through the university, and a smiling hungarian boy opened the door
of the building and waited for me to enter.
by Núria Curcoll
by Núria Curcoll
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