Complaints and pessimism? Definitely Hungarians
Ethnographic
report by Pfeifenrót Fanni
Everybody has problems, ups and downs in their lives;
this issue does not depend on the characteristic of one nation. However,
approaching and solving the problems is a more important issue when examining a
particular culture. How would an Englishman or a German approach a certain
issue or solve a problem? They will probably think it over precisely and list
the possible solutions without desperation. They may not complain; they may not
behave in a pessimistic way; moreover, they may not fall into self-pity. This
is unlike Hungarians, who immensely tend to be overwhelmingly pessimistic and
complain a lot. Much more than necessary.
It is a common stereotype that also proves to be true
that Hungarians tend to be not only pessimistic, but also depressed. These
traits have embedded themselves into the Hungarian culture and history. It is
enough to take into consideration the national anthem. We cannot find jovial or
cheering phrases in it. Nor can we
detect celebrating or motivating lines in the text. We are more likely to encounter depressive
allusions to the past or gloomy expressions to praying to God to have mercy on
them. In other words, Hungarians simply cannot escape from their roots:
pessimism is encoded in them.
To start with an example, I am sure that everybody
knows the situation when walking in the streets and suddenly bumping into an
acquaintance. It is inevitable to ask “How
are you?” or “How are you doing?”
to show politeness and to exchange a few words. Yes, an Englishman will
probably follow this way too: asking some polite questions, answering with a
couple of words, and returning the question for the partner. “And what about you?”. That’s all, no more
unnecessary dialogues. However, Hungarians do not know this kind of brief but
sufficient conversation. They love talking about themselves, especially about
their current problems presented in long and never-ending monologues. It is
interesting to see that Hungarians mention bad news first followed by good things,
if any even occur. I have noticed that complaints and negative experiences tend
to be told sooner than positive ones. Nevertheless, it is globally true that
people would like to consider good things as fundamental in their lives, thus
they think of bad things first. But it is still a very Hungarian characteristic
to complain a lot and start the conversation with complaints even when
travelling on transportation vehicles talking through mobiles and letting all
the other passengers know about their whole life.
I have observed another very interesting feature concerning
Hungarian’s pessimism. It would seem to be obvious that people try to demonstrate
their own competences and skills by claiming how many things they are able to
accomplish and so on and so forth. However, it is completely different
regarding Hungarians. On the contrary, they seem to compete against each other
for winning the award of being “the worst” not “the better”. I have heard
conversations in which things like these were said: “I think I will never achieve anything at my work place, I simply don’t
have the capacity:” Immediately comes the response from the partner: “No, your situation is so much better than
mine. I’m a newcomer, I don’t have as much experience as you have.” Maybe
other nations also talk to each other like this with the intention to encourage
each other, but for me it is very conspicuous among Hungarians. It is as if
they are trying to validate their own pessimism.
In conclusion, complaining and a pessimistic attitude
are very frequent Hungarian characteristics. Negative things enjoy precedence
in a conversation, and fighting for “the worst” prize is a terribly important
award in the competition of pessimism. Therefore, it is not surprising if
stereotypes about Hungarian people sometimes prove to be true.
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